Can You Let Go of Wanting Approval? The Sedona Method, Part 4

The Sedona Method is a powerful & easy-to use program that helped me learn to let go of negative thoughts, emotions and behaviors that were holding me back in every aspect of my life from health, to career, to relationships.

If this is your first look at the series, you might want to check out Part 1 for an overview before you get started. Part 2 focuses on letting go of resistance, while Part 3 is about letting go of the need for control.

This installment takes a look at our need for approval.

Wanting Approval
Have you ever felt the need for approval? From your boss, a loved one, or yourself? Have you ever experienced an instance where there was something you really wanted to accomplish, big or small, but felt you were inadequate to get it done?

If you answered yes to any of these questions, then you’ve experienced the need for approval. When we’re wanting approval, we’re actually feeling disapproval of ourselves — feeling we’re not good enough, not ready, not qualified, not smart enough, not talented enough, and the list goes on…

When we’re seeking approval, there’s an underlying feeling of lacking it. When this happens, “we act in ways designed to help us get it, while all the time sabotaging actually getting it. We are focused on ourselves, and we feel self-conscious.

We become overly concerned with what people think of us. We may say “yes” when we mean “no.” We may allow others to give us the runaround or control us in order to get them to like us. We may take on too much responsibility or not delegate tasks, because we think it will make us more popular.

You can recognize wanting approval, because it feels soft and exposed and also like: “gimme,” or “do-it-for-me.” When we want approval, we feel like we don’t have love and that we need to do something to get it back. Synonyms for wanting approval include wanting love, acceptance, admiration, caring, to be understood, nurtured, liked, among others.

As we let go of wanting approval, we will feel more loving and caring, more loved and accepted.”

Hale Dwoskin,
CEO and Director of Training of Sedona Training Associates

Lately, I’ve been working on letting go of my need for approval concerning Daddy Brain. I have many plans for this blog — from a book, to workshops with dads, to a film or TV show. But I have been struggling with feelings of inadequacy that have been holding me back — literally stopping me from attaining that which is within my reach.

Here’s an exercise that will give you an idea of what it’s like to let go of the need for approval. You may find it hard to do, or you may find it easy. Either way, it’s OK just the way it is. Remember this is only one “slice” of the program. There’s much, much more to it than I am able to explain here.

And remember, it’s OK to take each step as slowly as you need to…

Take a deep breath and focus inside.

Think of a situation where you wanted approval from a specific person or from yourself.

Could you welcome that sense of wanting approval, just for a moment?

Notice what it feels like to want approval.

Could you let it go?

If you repeat this process a few times, I think you’ll find that at least some of your need for approval has been lifted (if it hasn’t already). Remember, this is only a small part of what the Sedona Method has to offer.

The next installment will focus on letting go of wanting security/survival. In the meantime if you’d like to learn more, or try the CD program risk free, click here. You can also purchase the Sedona Method book, available at and fine bookstores everywhere.

And remember, you are not alone…

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Part 5 looks at letting go of the need for security/survival

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The Sedona Method: Your Key to Happiness, Success, Peace & Emotional Well-being

“I have been exposed to many self-improvement techniques and processes. This one stands head and shoulders above the rest for its ease of use, its profound impact, and the speed with which it produces results.

The Sedona Method is a vastly accelerated way of letting go of feelings like anger, frustration, jealousy, anxiety, stress and fear, as well as many other problems even physical pain with which almost everybody struggles at one time or another.”

Jack Canfield, co-creator of the Chicken Soup for the Soul books

In my life, I have usually found that when something appears too good to be true, it turns out to be something that was too good to be true. This is NOT the case with the Sedona Method. It is an easy to use program that delivers what it promises wonderful, life-changing results.

In this first part of this series, I’d like to present an overview of some fundamentals of the course:

– Letting go of resistance

– Letting go of the need for control

– Letting go of the need for approval

– Letting go of the need for security/survival

The current version of the course includes many other facets as well. But these core elements are what helped empower me to: heal from Crohn’s Disease, quit an incredibly toxic job, drastically lower my anxiety level, rid myself of obsessive compulsive thoughts, behaviors, anger issues, debilitating fear and stress to name a few.

I was able to do this by learning to let go of the negative thoughts, emotions and behaviors that I was holding on to. The process is so simple, anybody can do it. All you need is a sincere desire to find a better way to live.

Hale Dwoskin, CEO and Director of Training of The Sedona Method asks: “Have you ever held on to an emotion even though there was nothing you could do to satisfy it, make it right, or change the situation that appeared to cause it?

Have you ever held on to tension or anxiety even after the initial event that triggered it was long over? This is the form of holding on that we will explore throughout this course.

What is the opposite of holding on? Well, letting go, of course…”

Part 2 of this series focuses on letting go of resistance, and includes a practical exercise to help you release it. In the meantime if you’d like to learn more, or try the CD program risk free, click here. To check out the book on Amazon, click here.

And remember, you are not alone…

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Part 2 focuses on letting go of resistance
Part 3 is about letting go of the need for control
Part 4 introduces how to let go of wanting approval
Part 5 looks at letting go of the need for security/survival