Creating our own happy niche in life is kind of like placing a quarter (I’m dating myself) into a video game console at the local arcade (remember those?). Find the slot for the money and put it in. Easy right? As long as you’re close enough. Try getting it in from 10 feet away, 5 feet away, or even one inch past reaching distance. The simplicity of it evaporates and what appears is struggle. Pretty insurmountable struggle — which can be avoided if we position ourselves closely to our goal.
The question is, how do we do this? How do we plan, and line ourselves up to make that finish easy? When the short term is so distracting, tiring and time consuming, it feels near impossible to even glance in the direction of the long term. But without taking the long view, there’s no way we can get to the next destination. We’ll just stand in the middle of the video arcade, pointlessly, as overwhelming noises bombard our very essence and our life slips away.
I too search for the answer. Creating my own reality feels like such hard work, but something deeper than my thoughts tells me it’s quite simple. It’s getting past the thoughts that is the challenge. Our thoughts have formed routines that are very hard to break. And I wonder, if in some sick way, we like the routines. They’re what we know, even if it’s misery.
I think part of the problem is we want instant gratification. As Americans, words like “wait” and “patience” are not ones we like to hear. I don’t know about you, but I was never taught how to have patience, let alone how to harness its power into great accomplishments. From what I have seen, many people never really try to make big changes in their lives because the process seems too long, too difficult and TOO SLOW. We simply don’t want to wait (I was like this for years). So things stay the same and we complain. Doesn’t that sound dumb when you think about it?
Inaction will have you waiting forever, completely defeating your desire to not have to wait — stop it!
Granted, we don’t all know what we want to do with our lives. So how can we take the long view when there’s nothing to look at? How do we find the coin slot when we’re not sure where to look? Or which game we truly want to play? The answer is to look within and find our quarter first.
Without the quarter, we can’t play.
To me, the quarter represents my intention or highest purpose. The quarter is a symbol of what we’re most passionate about, what represents who we truly are in the clearest way. The game we choose is the most entertaining way to play with our quarter (act upon our intention), hopefully resulting in happiness and satisfaction.
It’s a slow dance. Take a step, see if it works. If it doesn’t, try the next step. If it does, figure out the next step on this particular path. If you’ve taken the long view, then you are always headed in the right direction, so the next step can’t be that far off. But remember, you don’t beat the game on the first level. Often, you’ve got to play each level countless times until you align your knowledge and skills to even get to the final board.
This process may take many years. So what are you waiting for? Get started today for the sake of yourself and your family!!!!
Your thoughts and comments are much appreciated.
And remember, you are not alone…
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