Can You Let Go of the Need for Control? The Sedona Method, Part 3

In Part 1 of this series I introduced the Sedona Method, a powerful & easy-to use program that helped me learn to let go of negative thoughts, emotions and behaviors that were holding me back in every aspect of my life from health, to career, to relationships. Part 2 focused specifically on letting go of resistance.

This installment of the series focuses on letting go of the need for control.

Wanting to Control
“When we want control, we fee like we don’t have control. It may help you to recognize the sense of wanting to control if you understand that it is not a feeling, although it has a feel to it. It feels hard and pushy, like: ‘It has to be my way.’

When we want to control, we feel out of control and like we need to take action to get it back. Synonyms for wanting to control include resistance and wanting to change, as well as wanting to understand, to manipulate, to push, to fix, to force, to have it be our way, to be right, and to be on top, among others. As we let go of wanting to control, we feel more in control.

As you start to let go of wanting to control or change things in your life, you’ll find yourself accepting things that you can not change, changing things that are appropriate to change, and feeling a lot less tension about things that are truly out of your control…”
Hale Dwoskin, CEO and Director of Training of Sedona Training Associates

A Note About the Word WANT
The mind interprets the word want as lack. So, if you say or think that you want something, what manifests is exactly what you asked for. You become a person wanting (lacking) something, instead of a person HAVING something.

For example if you continuously think, “I want an abundance of money,” your mind (and the Universe) brings you just that because what it hears is, “I lack an abundance of money.” Although this might seem like semantics, there is a truth to this. I’ve experienced it first hand.

Try rewording your desires with the word “have” instead of “want,” and see what happens. The Sedona Method teaches you how to do this in every aspect of your life. As long as you’re willing to do the work you’ll see positive changes, even with things you’ve been struggling with for years.

I have found the need to control in pretty much every aspect of my life. And although there are plenty of things I’m still working on, I would not be who I am (or where I am) today without the help of the Sedona Method.

Here’s an exercise that will give you an idea of what it’s like to let go of the need for control. You may find it hard to do, or you may find it easy. Either way, it’s OK just the way it is. Remember, this is only one “slice” of the program. There’s much more to it than I am able to explain here.

And remember, it’s OK to take each step as slowly as you need to…

Take a deep breath and focus inside.

Think of something in your life that you want to control.

Could you welcome whatever emotional and/or physical feeling that comes up?

Let the feeling fully be here (along with any sounds, sensations or pictures that arise with it).

Could you let it go?

If you repeat these steps a few times, I think you’ll find that at least some of the need for control has been lifted (if it hasn’t already). Remember, this is only a small part of what the Sedona Method has to offer.

The next installment will focus on letting go of the need for approval both from others and ourselves. In the meantime if you’d like to learn more, or try the CD program risk free, click here, or on the Sedona Method link in the sidebar above, right. You can also purchase the Sedona Method book, available at and fine bookstores everywhere.

And remember, you are not alone…

Related Links:
Part 4 introduces how to let go of wanting approval
Part 5 looks at letting go of the need for security/survival

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